“Cutting toxic people out of your life is not a sign of selfishness. It’s a sign of self-respect.”
The people we surround ourselves with have a massive impact on our lives. They can determine whether a situation is seen in a good or bad light. Their opinions fill out heads and can alter the way we think about ourselves and the world around us.
It’s imperative that we’re careful about the people we allow to get close to us. I, myself, had to learn the hard way that just because you’re a good person, doesn’t mean people will always be good to you in return. Some people try to take advantage of us and our kindness, but I’m here to tell you that you don’t need these people in your life. You have no obligation whatsoever to be involved with anything or anyone that has a negative impact on you.
You deserve happiness, inner peace and love. If you think you’re ever going to get that from any of the following people, it’s time to seriously alter your expectations…
1. The energy vampire that sucks the life out of you.
Energy vampires. We’ve all had one in our lives at one point or another. An energy vampire is a person that literally never has anything good to say. They’re so much of a downer that sometimes you think they wake up every morning set on ruining the day of anyone they come in contact with.
Drama follows them everywhere they go. They’ve always got some sort of crisis going on and expect you to bend over backwards to be there for them, but rarely are they actually there for you.
These people will try and guilt you into staying friends with them, but the best thing you could possibly do for yourself is to get far, far away. You’ll find that once you separate yourself from these habitually pessimistic people, your life will suddenly be brighter and much more positive!
2. The person with zero morals.
Gypsies, tramps and thieves. You don’t need anyone in your life that steals from you, is way too good of a liar or cool with sleeping with your significant other.
I know you’re thinking this a “well duh” point, but sometimes these people are hard to spot. They work their way into your life and are super cool until you learn you’re being lied to. You’ll confront them about it and they’ll deny it, you’ll have a fight, they’ll apologize and you’ll forgive them… until it happens again.
It’s best to just cut dishonest people out of your life completely. Without trust, your friendship is broken.
3. Someone that always wants to tell you who you are.
People that think they know you better than you know yourself and openly voice that on a regular basis are some of the most irritating people. You tell them you think you’re going to try [ insert new thing here ] and they make a comment that usually ends with, “I just feel like that’s not you,” totally crushing your excitement. You know what? Maybe you’ll try it and hate it, but you won’t know unless you give it a shot. No one should ever discourage you from exploring different sides of yourself. How will you ever grow if you never try new things?
4. Anyone that puts you in uncomfortable situations.
Whether they say inappropriate things in front of your coworkers, always ask you for money, invite a bunch of randos to your place without your consent or leave you stranded at the bar to go home with the guy buying them drinks, people that put you in uncomfortable situations are the living worst. You have no obligation to hang out with anyone that does anything to make you uncomfortable. It shows a major lack of respect on their part and you deserve friends that treat you with the same decency you show them.
5. The person that doesn’t support you in your endeavors.
Whether it’s a family member, friend or significant other, you don’t need people that aren’t going to cheer you on. You deserve to be surrounded by individuals that are going to be supportive of your ideas, goals and dreams. People that will be there to hold you accountable and keep you motivated. Anyone that tries to tear you down is a waste of your precious time.
Cutting toxic people out of your life can be painful, but things will get better a lot faster than you think. Suddenly, you’ll be able to breathe without feeling anxiety building in your chest. You won’t feel like you have to censor yourself. You’ll be free to do and be whatever you want. Remember that when you remove a toxic person from your life, you’re just making room for a better person to come along.
You deserve healthy relationships.
You deserve love.