Have you ever driven somewhere only to think back on the drive over and realize you don’t know how the heck you got there? You know you were just driving, but you don’t remember any details of the trip. Everything is just a blur. Typically we refer to this as “going on autopilot” and as dangerous as it is to do when we drive, can you imagine looking back on your life and realizing you lived the whole thing in that same way?
About a month ago a lovely young girl sent me an Instagram message with an important question: “How do I gain self confidence?”
First of all, I was honored she felt she could ask me this. Secondly, I had no idea how to respond. It took me YEARS of trial and error trying to figure that out for myself and the last thing I wanted to do was tell her some generic, “tell yourself you’re beautiful,” advice. She can find that just about anywhere on the internet.
No, my answer had to be different. It had to actually be helpful. So I dug up my old journals, did a lot of soul searching and compiled a list of things that legitimately helped me gain confidence. I hope they work for you, too.
Dedicated to Madeline, Anthony and Savannah for being incredible friends in the good times and the bad. For loving me when I’m at my best and loving me just the same at my worst, but never letting me stay that way. I love you.
“Small changes can yield big results if we just take the time and give the effort to make positive changes in the first place. Life does not change for the better on it’s own and it is up to us to go after the change we desire.”
In my short 21 years, I’ve come to learn that most people have at least one story that ends with, “And that’s when I realized I was going to be ok.” We look back on a trying time in our lives and clearly see where we came out on top. If you haven’t reached that point yet, don’t worry. You will.
Continue reading “Filling In The Gaps: How I Became Whole Again”
Lately, in my own life, I’ve been trying to focus on being a more ~grounded~ individual. So often our thoughts and things going on in the world get the best of us and interfere with our inner peace. So, I’ve outlined 5 simple baby steps that have helped me in my own day-to-day life and I sincerely hope they help you on your journey to a more grounded existence. One full of mindfulness, peace and joy that you create all on your own! Continue reading “5 Baby Steps Toward A More Peaceful, Grounded Life.”
“You have something they don’t. Strength.”
This was not supposed to be today’s post. In fact, I hadn’t even had the idea for it until last night, but once it hit me, I knew I had to write it.
This is for those that gave their all to a relationship and were stabbed in the back by the one person they loved most. For those that summoned the strength to heal, move on, give love another chance and have now found themselves betrayed, yet again. If you’re standing there holding your heart in your hands and have no idea what to do with it anymore… this one’s for you.
“Whatever this past year has held for you, I hope this next one brings you joy, peace and love. Here are just a few steps to ensure you’ll get just that in 2018!”
“If you’re going through hell, keep going.”