Disclaimer: I am aware the situation outlined in this article is not unique to one gender or sexuality. However, it is written by, and from the perspective of, a straight woman. Feel free to change pronouns as you read to suit your situation.
One of my dear friends had her heart broken this week. It’s difficult to see her in so much pain because, like most of us, I’ve been there. As I tried to think of ways to comfort her, I thought back to my past breakups. What did my friends do that actually helped?
While I usually try to keep my posts gender neutral, this one is written a little one sided. Mostly because I am a woman that has only ever dated men and it’s fairly difficult to write about something you know nothing about (aka, dating women). That being said, fellas, feel free to apply this to your own situation.
Listen, I get it. He’s special. You don’t know why he is, he just is. You’re supernaturally drawn to him, despite his flaws, and would do anything to be with him. You know his potential because you’ve seen glimpses of it. You know he can be a good man. The kind of man you deserve. But for whatever reason he is struggling to be that man. You have taken on the responsibility of being everything he could possibly need on his journey to becoming the man you know he can be. But here’s the thing… you may be setting out on a journey for change, but he’s not.
In my short 21 years, I’ve come to learn that most people have at least one story that ends with, “And that’s when I realized I was going to be ok.” We look back on a trying time in our lives and clearly see where we came out on top. If you haven’t reached that point yet, don’t worry. You will.
Continue reading “Filling In The Gaps: How I Became Whole Again”
So far this month we’ve talked about what to do when our lives are falling apart, being betrayed by the person we love and bringing peace into our lives despite all that. We’ve even created a playlist to help deal with the pain.
Well, my friends, I’ve got another playlist for you today! This one is less about the pain and more about the empowerment that comes after. Once we’ve pulled ourselves out of the ocean of emotion and start to remember who we are. That is what this playlist is all about. It’s experiencing the ebb and flow of emotions, but still picking yourself up everyday and charging forward into life with a fierceness.
“You have something they don’t. Strength.”
This was not supposed to be today’s post. In fact, I hadn’t even had the idea for it until last night, but once it hit me, I knew I had to write it.
This is for those that gave their all to a relationship and were stabbed in the back by the one person they loved most. For those that summoned the strength to heal, move on, give love another chance and have now found themselves betrayed, yet again. If you’re standing there holding your heart in your hands and have no idea what to do with it anymore… this one’s for you.
There are so many things I’ve wanted to say to you, but just couldn’t put into words. Emotions I’ve felt that don’t have a label assigned to them.
I will never understand the people that hurt you. How they could give up someone that loves as beautifully as you, is beyond me.
January 2018 is the month of healing on Argent & Or and there is nothing that heals quite like music. I find that taking time to feel every emotion from sadness to anger, confusion to resolution, is extremely important in the healing process. That’s why I’ve put together this playlist for the brokenhearted Argent & Or reader. Since I can’t send you all an individual bouquet of your favorite flowers, here is my gift to you. A culmination of songs to kick-start your emotional journey.
I don’t regret my first love. I don’t regret anything I said, did, or hoped for. I don’t regret loving another human being completely and unconditionally. And neither should you. Continue reading “A Year After The Breakup: Where I Am Now”