We all experience disappointment at one point or another, but that knowledge doesn’t necessarily ease the pain when it’s our turn to face it. I, myself, recently stared disappointment in the face and with the help of my lovely friends and family, I was able to cope with it fairly quickly. Much quicker than I ever could have in the past.
Self-worth was always something I thought I had, but it wasn’t until this past year that my loved ones brought something to my attention. “If you knew your worth you wouldn’t do this, associate with him, put yourself through that…” A long list of crimes against myself was unfurled and I couldn’t ignore it any longer.
About a month ago a lovely young girl sent me an Instagram message with an important question: “How do I gain self confidence?”
First of all, I was honored she felt she could ask me this. Secondly, I had no idea how to respond. It took me YEARS of trial and error trying to figure that out for myself and the last thing I wanted to do was tell her some generic, “tell yourself you’re beautiful,” advice. She can find that just about anywhere on the internet.
No, my answer had to be different. It had to actually be helpful. So I dug up my old journals, did a lot of soul searching and compiled a list of things that legitimately helped me gain confidence. I hope they work for you, too.