“Cutting toxic people out of your life is not a sign of selfishness. It’s a sign of self-respect.”
Have you ever driven somewhere only to think back on the drive over and realize you don’t know how the heck you got there? You know you were just driving, but you don’t remember any details of the trip. Everything is just a blur. Typically we refer to this as “going on autopilot” and as dangerous as it is to do when we drive, can you imagine looking back on your life and realizing you lived the whole thing in that same way?
About a month ago a lovely young girl sent me an Instagram message with an important question: “How do I gain self confidence?”
First of all, I was honored she felt she could ask me this. Secondly, I had no idea how to respond. It took me YEARS of trial and error trying to figure that out for myself and the last thing I wanted to do was tell her some generic, “tell yourself you’re beautiful,” advice. She can find that just about anywhere on the internet.
No, my answer had to be different. It had to actually be helpful. So I dug up my old journals, did a lot of soul searching and compiled a list of things that legitimately helped me gain confidence. I hope they work for you, too.
“Journal” is a playlist comprised of smooth, easy listening songs that nourish the soul. I find myself listening to these songs while I write, but you may find them useful for back road cruises, bubble baths or just hitting the reset button and winding down. Whatever mood you fancy them for, I hope you find joy and peace in these tunes.
“Small changes can yield big results if we just take the time and give the effort to make positive changes in the first place. Life does not change for the better on it’s own and it is up to us to go after the change we desire.”
In my short 21 years, I’ve come to learn that most people have at least one story that ends with, “And that’s when I realized I was going to be ok.” We look back on a trying time in our lives and clearly see where we came out on top. If you haven’t reached that point yet, don’t worry. You will.
Continue reading “Filling In The Gaps: How I Became Whole Again”
Lately, in my own life, I’ve been trying to focus on being a more ~grounded~ individual. So often our thoughts and things going on in the world get the best of us and interfere with our inner peace. So, I’ve outlined 5 simple baby steps that have helped me in my own day-to-day life and I sincerely hope they help you on your journey to a more grounded existence. One full of mindfulness, peace and joy that you create all on your own! Continue reading “5 Baby Steps Toward A More Peaceful, Grounded Life.”
So far this month we’ve talked about what to do when our lives are falling apart, being betrayed by the person we love and bringing peace into our lives despite all that. We’ve even created a playlist to help deal with the pain.
Well, my friends, I’ve got another playlist for you today! This one is less about the pain and more about the empowerment that comes after. Once we’ve pulled ourselves out of the ocean of emotion and start to remember who we are. That is what this playlist is all about. It’s experiencing the ebb and flow of emotions, but still picking yourself up everyday and charging forward into life with a fierceness.
January 2018 is the month of healing on Argent & Or and there is nothing that heals quite like music. I find that taking time to feel every emotion from sadness to anger, confusion to resolution, is extremely important in the healing process. That’s why I’ve put together this playlist for the brokenhearted Argent & Or reader. Since I can’t send you all an individual bouquet of your favorite flowers, here is my gift to you. A culmination of songs to kick-start your emotional journey.
“Whatever this past year has held for you, I hope this next one brings you joy, peace and love. Here are just a few steps to ensure you’ll get just that in 2018!”