Disclaimer: I am aware the situation outlined in this article is not unique to one gender or sexuality. However, it is written by, and from the perspective of, a straight woman. Feel free to change pronouns as you read to suit your situation.
This year marked my third, and final summer using dating apps. As someone that considers herself a romantic, someone that wants real, lasting love, I can honestly say dating apps are the absolute worst.
One of my dear friends had her heart broken this week. It’s difficult to see her in so much pain because, like most of us, I’ve been there. As I tried to think of ways to comfort her, I thought back to my past breakups. What did my friends do that actually helped?
Self-worth was always something I thought I had, but it wasn’t until this past year that my loved ones brought something to my attention. “If you knew your worth you wouldn’t do this, associate with him, put yourself through that…” A long list of crimes against myself was unfurled and I couldn’t ignore it any longer.
“Cutting toxic people out of your life is not a sign of selfishness. It’s a sign of self-respect.”
Have you ever driven somewhere only to think back on the drive over and realize you don’t know how the heck you got there? You know you were just driving, but you don’t remember any details of the trip. Everything is just a blur. Typically we refer to this as “going on autopilot” and as dangerous as it is to do when we drive, can you imagine looking back on your life and realizing you lived the whole thing in that same way?
Life is quite a wild ride. One that I wouldn’t want to take on my own.
In my short 21 years, I’ve come to learn that most people have at least one story that ends with, “And that’s when I realized I was going to be ok.” We look back on a trying time in our lives and clearly see where we came out on top. If you haven’t reached that point yet, don’t worry. You will.
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“You have something they don’t. Strength.”
This was not supposed to be today’s post. In fact, I hadn’t even had the idea for it until last night, but once it hit me, I knew I had to write it.
This is for those that gave their all to a relationship and were stabbed in the back by the one person they loved most. For those that summoned the strength to heal, move on, give love another chance and have now found themselves betrayed, yet again. If you’re standing there holding your heart in your hands and have no idea what to do with it anymore… this one’s for you.
There are so many things I’ve wanted to say to you, but just couldn’t put into words. Emotions I’ve felt that don’t have a label assigned to them.
I will never understand the people that hurt you. How they could give up someone that loves as beautifully as you, is beyond me.